A friend mentioned last night how his pal in Bristol got dumped by his girlfriend and was feeling extremely sore about it. The reason? After dating the girl for eight months, the guy had casually mentioned kids (amid mushy pillow talks) and that completely freaked her out.
It may not be so surprising in the West but have you ever come across similar desi tales? A few years ago, the answer would have been: Are you kidding? Because, at that time, the only goal of a woman was to get married and have children.
But today, things seem to changing at a cosmic pace. After years of grovelling for commitment from their partners, women have simply turned the tables. Gen Y women are seemingly running away from the “C” word.
“And why not?” asks Devika Bhartiya, a senior manager with a leading beverage company. “Women became movers and shakers in a world previously dominated by men. These new achievements mean new attitudes, even in the areas of love and marriage.”
Why things are falling apart...
No matter what you call it – sexual revolution, women’s lib or the “been there, done that” attitude of social climbers, the results never vary. Here are the new women with an enormous sense of entitlement – reluctant to put up with less-than-perfect behaviour.
“Women today are really strong and show it off in their actions, too,” explains Dr. Sanjay Chugh. “They believe in using mind power while making their choice instead of knuckling under social obligations and conforming to gender stereotypes. Their ability to take risks has gone up a few notches and that is why we see this radical shift.”
Shikha Verma, a young entrepreneur, fully agrees with Chugh. “Today’s women can assert themselves better and take their own decisions. So we are now a bit selective and want to do things the way it suits us.”
Not only are women exercising their choice, men too are feeling at sea with this apparent role reversal. As, Palak Majumdar, a Delhi-based tarot-card reader, says: “I think men have become wary of women’s so-called liberation and sense of freedom. The ability of the fair sex to call the shots within the bounds of a relationship has tossed the normal pattern and gender role. As a result, men feel lost and hardly know how to handle this recent trend.”
Commitment Phobia: Why does it occur?
Mention “commitment phobia” and you will find people whining about men. However, it is no longer an exclusive male phenomenon as relationship boundaries have just changed. Let’s face it – for the new-age woman, it’s difficult to commit to a hair colour even, let alone a full-fledged, long-term relationship. But it’s not simply skittishness or whimsical behaviour that keeps women away from commitment. There are more solid reasons behind this phenomenon ...
It may not be so surprising in the West but have you ever come across similar desi tales? A few years ago, the answer would have been: Are you kidding? Because, at that time, the only goal of a woman was to get married and have children.
But today, things seem to changing at a cosmic pace. After years of grovelling for commitment from their partners, women have simply turned the tables. Gen Y women are seemingly running away from the “C” word.
“And why not?” asks Devika Bhartiya, a senior manager with a leading beverage company. “Women became movers and shakers in a world previously dominated by men. These new achievements mean new attitudes, even in the areas of love and marriage.”
Why things are falling apart...
No matter what you call it – sexual revolution, women’s lib or the “been there, done that” attitude of social climbers, the results never vary. Here are the new women with an enormous sense of entitlement – reluctant to put up with less-than-perfect behaviour.
“Women today are really strong and show it off in their actions, too,” explains Dr. Sanjay Chugh. “They believe in using mind power while making their choice instead of knuckling under social obligations and conforming to gender stereotypes. Their ability to take risks has gone up a few notches and that is why we see this radical shift.”
Shikha Verma, a young entrepreneur, fully agrees with Chugh. “Today’s women can assert themselves better and take their own decisions. So we are now a bit selective and want to do things the way it suits us.”
Not only are women exercising their choice, men too are feeling at sea with this apparent role reversal. As, Palak Majumdar, a Delhi-based tarot-card reader, says: “I think men have become wary of women’s so-called liberation and sense of freedom. The ability of the fair sex to call the shots within the bounds of a relationship has tossed the normal pattern and gender role. As a result, men feel lost and hardly know how to handle this recent trend.”
Commitment Phobia: Why does it occur?
Mention “commitment phobia” and you will find people whining about men. However, it is no longer an exclusive male phenomenon as relationship boundaries have just changed. Let’s face it – for the new-age woman, it’s difficult to commit to a hair colour even, let alone a full-fledged, long-term relationship. But it’s not simply skittishness or whimsical behaviour that keeps women away from commitment. There are more solid reasons behind this phenomenon ...
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