MY GOD... HE'S MARRIED !

Life could be difficult when you realise that the man you have fallen in love with is married... What do dating a married man and devouring a hot fudge sundae loaded with almonds, whipped cream and lots of sauce have in common? Both taste devilishly good, and both are sinfully bad for you. Sure, it’s human nature to want what you shouldn’t have. But while the ice cream concoction might expand your hips, loving someone else’s man can twist your heart in ways that are infinitely more disturbing than a little weight gain and much harder to bounce back from. ALL ALONE If it’s fear of commitment that compels you to seek out men with wedding rings on their fingers, you’ll be seeing clearly when you’re spending the majority of your Saturday nights alone waiting to see if he can sneak out and see you. QUEEN OF DENIAL Many women who succumb to the lure of the married man say, “Oh, I can handle it. I won’t fall in love.” Uh, huh. And rain isn’t wet. When you have any sort of relationship with someone you care about, he becomes a part of your life. And you inevitably want more involvement. Only the more you want, the less he gives. And let’s not forget the “once a cheater, always a cheater” factor. CAN YOU COUNT ON HIM? Even if he changes his cheating ways for you, do you really want to be that woman — the one who wreaked havoc on his marriage in the first place? Speaking of his marriage, even if you’re convinced that he’s going to leave her, don’t delude yourself into thinking that this is a simple process. YOU MIGHT END UP LONELY What you have when you love a married man is a fleeting thing, a wave that crashes over you (perhaps knocking you down), then vanishes into the ocean. That’s it. You can never put his name down on an application form under “Who to call in an emergency”. You can never count on him for weekends or holidays. The seeming magic offered by the married man is style, not substance; it’s a trick mirror. He’s a master of the art of illusion. When darkness turns to dawn, he’s gone and you’ve got footprints on your heart. Resist his lure.